What's the smallest reversible thing you could try, that would give you a taste of what's missing?
You can name what your life is missing — or you have a sense of it, either from yourself or from the Five Lives exercise (click here to try if you haven't). But you struggle moving forward, for good reasons. This tool helps you find ways to dabble with something new, without triggering your own defenses.
The principle
Reversibility. No quitting your job, leaving your relationship, moving across the country — those moves invite resistance from the parts of you that have a stake in the current arrangement, and those parts are good at killing experiments before they start.
A small reversible experiment is different.
Something you can run for a month or two, learn from, and walk away from if it isn't right. The point isn't the experiment itself — it's what you learn from running it.
Three things we will ask you to reflect on
Your pattern
What your imagination keeps pointing at
auto-filled if you do Five Lives
A constraint
What you actually have to work with
The fear
What you're afraid would happen if you tried
What you'll get back
Nine experiments — three options at each of three scales. Click any that catch your eye to see the full design. Pick the one that fits, or use them as inspiration to find one you like better.
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